The discussion of the top 5 regrets Bronnie Ware heard from clients/patients in her many years working in Hospice palliative care...continued...um...in a moment or two that is...
A few friends who have viewed this website have had a critique or two on the use of wording etc...and I thank them because that is what I asked for, constructive critique...Emma I will discuss the points you raised with Kyle...thank you again:)))
3) I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
It would be very easy to say this one is for the guys, not so, every gender is culpable of this...many will disagree with me and you are welcome to. This does not mean share every single emotion you have with everybody around you, let it be authentic, and let it be constructive, and let it be you and let it be for your benefit and those around you. If you suspect you express feelings and emotions for negative gain I recommend you read 'Games People Play' by Dr Eric Berne, it has helped many people understand their human relationship mechanisms.
The mind/body connection has been well established so I will not go into details, without a doubt holding in emotions WILL have a negative impact on your mental and physical health. Get angry, get stressed, get sad, get frustrated, get lonely, get ... fill in the blank with any negative emotion and feeling you can, and it WILL have a negative effect on you. If you can relate, think of what you can do to change that state, something healthy and positive...then do it.
Back to 'Bronnie...she said many clients/patients said they suppressed their feelings to keep the peace, and as a result 'settled' for an existence they were not truly happy or comfortable with. Many felt they developed illnesses as a result of carrying bitterness and resentment because of not expressing what they wanted to.
Bronnie says 'We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win'.
Be authentic, be honest with yourself, then take it from there...let those feelings and emotions out...in a positive, healthy way, good luck...
Next installment tomorrow..